Season 2: Episode 13 - Freedom

Freedom is a big topic but I just share a few thoughts related to the topic. Episodes released Tuesdays or Fridays. 

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Hey, everyone, welcome to Share Your Sparkle. And I'm your host, Dr. Darline Berrios. This is season two, Episode 13. Freedom. Hey, everyone, I almost did like what buildings do and skip to Episode 13, you know, on the elevator. But I didn't. So here we are decided to talk about freedom because the Fourth of July just passed and in the United States that's, you know, the day of independence. I'll share some thoughts about that in a little bit. But first, I want to tell a funny story, talk about what I'm watching on Netflix, share a quote and then give my thoughts on freedom. So yesterday was the fourth of July. And I really didn't do much. But I convinced my sister to go on a hike with me. And we did the long one, the long one is about five and a half miles takes about two hours and 20 minutes, I would say it's like a medium level hike. Like it's not. It's not easy. Like it's not straight. There are some parts, you know, that are pretty slippery, and Rocky and some pretty steep terrain. But it's really great. I love it. So we hadn't we hadn't done it in a while. And the temperature was pretty perfect. It was like in the 50s. So it was a nice, cool summer morning to embark on our long hike. But last week, there's a different trail that I go on. And I was being you know, my super cute black lab, who's the beast right now he's super big. He's about seven months old. And I'm like a tired dog is a good dog. So I have to take him hiking in the morning in the afternoon. And when we went last week, it's all black bear. So in New England, the black bears are out and about. And luckily, I bought a whistle like a month ago, I guess. And it was facing the direction I was going in so it didn't see yes. But I just booked it in the opposite direction with beam and I started blowing my whistle and about five minutes after backtracking five minutes, like there's a house. So you know, I had to cut through 100 feet or so maybe a little bit more like 150 feet of woods. That's like not a path. I was just hoping the whole time we wouldn't get poison ivy to get these people's driveway so I can cut through this neighborhood and have like my mom pick us up. So since then we've been super cautious on the trails and my sister, I told her to bring a whistle and her backpack has like a whistle attached to it. And every once in a while we would just blow the whistle You know, I'm hoping to keep the bears away, I guess. And she was ahead of me and her whistles attached her backpack so I can't see when she's blowing it and some so she would blow it and make it oh my god, can you just give me a warning? Because it's sometimes when she would blow it, it would scare me. I'm like, Can you just tell me that you're going to blow the whistle. And she's like, you know, the bears have like cameras in the woods and they're watching us. And they're laughing at you because each time I blow the whistle you get scared. That's really really funny. No bears. Yesterday, or since the day I saw one. So that's good. But that's my funny summer bear story. And Netflix, if you're looking for something to watch, I saw summertime it takes place on this coastal beach place in Spain, a group of young probably high school senior like high school age, early college age students or kids kind of coming of age and relationships and their connection to their family. I thought it was good. So I recommend summer time. And there's something I clicked on it by mistake, honestly. But it's called the Parisian agency and what this is what I liked about it, there's a family and this is totally what I want. It's like their their own corporate literally it's like these parents and their four sons. The youngest one is 16. So it's not he's not necessarily involved in the business. But there are five episodes about them working together. They're in real estate like luxury real estate in Paris. And literally they work in the parents living room like they talk about board meetings are like lunches, turning into board meetings. And if you've ever worked with people that are like family, close friends, or I don't know if you work with your family, but if you've ever had that kind of relationship where work is just fun, and I've had a few scenarios with, that's the case, like one, we're a buddy of mine had literally the same position, and we would just help each other out and just laugh every single day. And she's listening, she knows exactly who I'm talking about. But we would laugh every single day, you know, and then at a school where the teachers were basically, you know, like family and, and a team of mine that I was a part of, for like nine years, like a decade, we were just like family. And we laughed, and we cried when we needed to cry. And we pushed each other and we took care of each other. And it's just such a cool experience. So watching that just made me want something like that again, you know, and, like they have their own corporate. So I think that's really awesome. So summertime, you know, beach, town and Spain. And you know, the experience of coming of age and relationships. And that's, you know, fiction, but if you weren't looking for something real. The Parisian agency suggests both of them. And a quote that I want to just share, related to freedom. It's by Erin Hanson, I actually have the quote on my phone. But I didn't realize who it was written by until I looked her up. She's a poet, young poet, maybe like in your 20s. I think on Instagram, she goes by Let me see here. Well, what is the underground poet maybe? Hold on? Sorry. Aaron Hansen, the poetic underground, the poetic underground. And the only one quote that I have I read some other ones. But this is the one that I'm going to read to you today. It says, There's freedom waiting for you on the breezes of the sky. And you ask, What if I fall? Oh, but my darling. What if you fly? So that's my Erin Hansen, and she has some books. Definitely check her out and her material. I don't have any of her books. But the poems that I read or the postings that she has, are really interesting and powerful. In speaking of freedom. God, I think there's so much to say about that. It's kind of hard. But when I think about it, I really think about how much Yes, there has been, or there are freedoms that we have that we didn't have before. But there's so much more to go. I mean, there were literally places in the world where I cannot live. Because there are countries I think like 69 countries where, like homosexuality is outlawed. I mean, I remember my little brother asking me wants to if I wanted to, like, you know, we talked about traveling and different things. And his family is thinking about going to Morocco. I'm like, I can't go there. Are you kidding me? I don't want to get like arrested while I'm there. Like it's even a scary thought for me to go visit some parts of the world. And so there's a list, the current list. I think it's from like the BBC here. You know, where places are where it's literally I wouldn't consider living just because I need to be me, right? Barbados, Ethiopia, Ghana, Jamaica, Kenya. So much things have changed between now and then melodies, which I see here is really beautiful. Obviously, depending on different parts of your socially significant identity, you're going to be treated differently in some cases, like in my case, like I wouldn't even consider living in that part of the world. And I'll be honest, even the United States, I wouldn't consider living in some places just because, I mean, if you've traveled the United States, it's very different in in a lot. I mean, if you go from I don't know, let's say like Burlington, Vermont to Miami, you you feel like you're literally in a different country. I've owned like I've grown up in New England. I know most of the East Coast just by like traveling up and down like from, you know, New England to Florida. I have lived that lived out in California, both Southern California. So I'm in cross through, you know, like Texas and Arizona, not spent a lot of time in those places, but enough to at least have gone through and visited. But like, I've never been up to like Montana or the Dakotas and I have visited Minnesota. But like we live in a country that's so different, depending on where you are, right? And honestly, there's some places that I would not consider living just because I think it might still be scary. Whether it's because of not just not gender or sexuality, like in terms of relationships, but racially, you know, it's, it's interesting. So while we celebrated freedom, there's really a lot a lot left to kind of get through in terms of like, when will we all be free in not just in the United States, but in the world? And will we ever be truly free? I mean, as humans, as humans, will we ever truly be free? Because someone else will always be making some law, someone will be dictating how you live. Somehow, right? Even like, when we go to buy stuff in stores, like, are we making decisions based on what we want? Or? I mean, how many times have you bought something right there? As you're checking out, because it's right there, as you're checking out, you're like, Oh, I can go for some gum right now. But like, Did you really want gum? All that stuff that's placed in stores, it's done strategically, all that marketing stuff, commercials, you know, billboards where they play cereal, like, literally the height in the aisle where they play cereal, like the height of the aisles themselves, really, are done, because they're like, well, how can we get people to buy this, this and that? What can we do? What change can we make? And I haven't seen the Netflix documentary, but I think it's basically about technology. And that same idea. And I'll be honest, I'm scared. I'm honestly scared to watch it. Because how many decisions are we literally making? Because of what we watch and see and hear around us instead of like, truly, because it's like something inside of us that we want to do. I mean, and at the core of it, you want to be like, No, I'm doing this because I want to, but I'll be honest, like, I'll see us commercial for something like cereal, and I kind of feel like having cocoa pebbles now. Or I kind of feel like having whatever that restaurant is that just popped up on the screen. So it's a little weird. There, I'm scared to watch that Netflix thing, because I want to think that I control my choices. But do I really sometimes? I don't know. I honestly don't know. I mean to freak you out, but it's true. Like, how many choices are we literally making on our own accord or because of what we see, hear and feel around us. So freedom. On a more positive note, I guess, or less heavy, I want to give a shout out to my little brother whose birthday was on the Fourth of July. And what I do appreciate appreciate about him is that he allows people just by being who he who he is the freedom to be who they are. So I can only speak about my relationship with him as a sibling. But I truly feel like he gives that space of freedom for you to be your authentic self and you can choose to be your authentic self or not. And that's a gift, you know, like how many people can you be yourself around and truly not feel, you know, judged, or, I don't know, looked at differently in some way shape or form. And that's what's really amazing about the Fourth of July baby that I know is that he allows people to be free to be who they are. So thank you, Mikey for that because that's an amazing gift. And speaking of freedom, I think on a I'm going to end on this note. We will all this stuff is happening as you beings in the world, right? Unless there's something, you know, physically barring you from being able to think in a certain way, you know, for whatever reason, we can decide what we think about things. Like, we can decide how we think. And what we want to think. Obviously, thoughts come and go. But like, you can change a thought if you want it to, you can give a thought some energy, you can think, even if you're imprisoned physically, you have the ability to think you have, like I said, barring any physical, something or other, you have that ability to think what you want to think in your mind. Someone might have a tape over your mouth, I don't know. But you can still think something. Someone can't take your thought or thoughts away, those are still yours. And you can make them or take them away, right? You can make your own thoughts, you can take away your own thoughts, that maybe that's something even more powerful than what exists. Like in the real world, like with laws or things that are still basically colonizing people in a certain way, shape or form by like, trying to, you know, I don't know, hold on to the past, I guess in some way with some power of sorts. But like, our thoughts are still ours, or yours. So that's pretty powerful, or thoughts are still ours. Okay, people, I have one story to share, and I found it this morning. It's from tosha. Silver's, change me prayers. The hidden power of spiritual surrender. I don't know who this message is for but it's titled never too late. So back when I still did astrology, I had a client in her 70s, who was constantly being advised to curl up at her, quote, advanced unquote, age and wait to die. But Emma still had tons of energy. Her chart told a completely different story. I should don't feel done. She told me in some ways I've barely begun. Isn't that incredible? Did you know i gate? I asked, gazing at her fifth house of creativity and love crammed with six planets, that you're actually an artist. Emma's cheeks were suddenly wet with tears as she looked down and nodded her head. Yes, I knew when I was young, but I fear it might be too late for that. Well, it ain't over till it's over I crude suggesting the suggesting she say the following prayer for a couple of months. What the hell she had absolutely nothing to lose. My entire life is in Divine Order. Outside of all imagined limits, only the Divine Will is my guide. Let whatever dormant talents I had emerged for the good of all. Give me the courage to let whatever is within me flow. Make me ready. Remove any fear or resistance open the way. I didn't hear from her for three years, and then an email, even though she'd painted in her 20s. She'd found a sculpting class soon after we met. Eventually, she moved to Brooklyn, to pursue what became a wild fire fire of a static artistic devotion. To her amazement, her work was now in small galleries. Then a second miracle occurred at 74. She'd also been told her romantic life was, of course long over. But amazingly, she had met and fallen in love with another artist, a woman. She was now having her first happy relationship ever. Her life took unimaginable twists just by offering that packed a little fifth house to the divine. And then it says that there's their little prayers after the short stories. Not all of them about our astrology it's literally like to dream she had my head have had are different experiences with people. And this one says here changed me divine beloved into one who is freed from the illusion of time. Protect me from the toxic views this culture holds about age helped me be open to a miracle of regeneration in every way. May I know I'm a dazzling and eternal soul. Not a chronological number. Never too late. action from change me prayers by tosha silver I hope that helps somebody. I actually one last thing I was running two days ago I told you I sometimes I get these messages. And the phrase that came to mind while I was midway through my work run was I said it got me. I said it got the army. I don't know if that gave you the chills or not. But I think that was a pretty cool message. I said, Get the army. If you don't know what it is. Look it up. Okay, people remember, it's summertime. still wear your mask? I don't know I I'm gonna say still wear your mask. And you're like, well, you were just talking about freedom. I know. But did you notice no one got the flu this winter. That's when my sister in law brought up not too long ago. Yeah, well, I mean, part of the reason why it's probably more out and about but more people had their masks on anyway. So summer time, rest. Find some time to rest a day a couple days. Take care of yourself. It's important. Until then, except your sparkle, surrender to it and allow it to be so keep shining